8. THE FILIAL TASK IN MIDLIFE: AMBIVALENCE AND THE QUALITY OF ADULT CHILDREN’S RELATIONSHIPS WITH THEIR OLDER PARENTS

Relationships between adult children and their aging parents are challenged when parents need help or care. As a consequence, adult children often experience a transition in their filial role as older parents experience functional losses and the children have to reorganize and restructure their relationship with them (Lang & Schütze, 2002). This filial task competes with other demands of midlife (such as family and career demands). As a consequence, the filial role in midlife may be associated with contradictory experiences in the relationship with one’s parents, typically entailing a high potential for ambivalence.